Marriage? Parent? ??

When I was driving to work today, something cross my mind. Something I not so sure myself, I guess I will only know when my spirit depart from my body.

"No one tell me that marriage is hard and being a parent is twice as hard." ~ from "Marley & Me" movie.

Two persons from different background, different up-bringing, different character, different behaviour and the list can go on and on. So this two persons will living together under one roof and soon need to learn how to tolerant, how to share, how to divide, how to love, how to being loved and on & on & on.

When a baby come about, things change again. Hubby upgrade to daddy. Wife upgrade to mommy. And you know what - everything start like day 1. A daddy learn to be a daddy. A mommy learn to be a mommy. A baby learn to be a child.

Upon that time, life is so excited until when the baby learn to talk. Throwing tantrum when his/her needs not fulfill. House fills of noise pollution. And yet, do you enjoy life without a baby?

Nah.... life without a baby - is like life stand-still in that point where we as hubby & wife will never grow-up.

In some point of time, you wish you can turn back the clock or you wish to stand-still at one place and hoping not to move on. You may do like that but by doing that you hurt the person you love dearly without you notice.

Being a parent is a full-time commitment (of course) but it also reflect on you. Nothing but only you. Babies like a white sheet of paper - they know nothing at all. We as the parent paint the colors onto that paper - how we mould them - how we want them to be.

From day-to-day, the babies grow into you nothing but just like you. If you scream so much, they will act like you and behave like you. If you are nice, they are nice too. And we refer them as "little monster". LOL. Do you think : actually we are the "BIG MONSTER"?

With all this things happen, will husband & wife stand strong? Hold on to their believe? Still love each other dearly? Become grumphy together? Still be faithful?

It is never easy in life. It is sweet sometime. It is bitter sometime. And you know what? This make life interesting. But how long... how long you can hold on to your believe, to love your husband / wife, to stay faithful, to grow old & grumphy together.... HOW LONG????

No one... really... NO ONE can answer that. Relationship working based on trust. We can hope, wish and pray.

We learn every single day. No exception. Everyone does. It is really depends how you view it.

No one can change you except yourself. No one can mould you into something you do not want to unless you let them. Whatever you do or did... either you hurt your loves one or you love them. Everything start from you.....

Good day everyone!!!