Anger

Lately, I get angry a lot, get mad a lot, get frustrated a lot as well.  It is like I am slowly turning into a monster.  I do not like the way I am behaving now because I scare my children a lot especially JC.  I did a google search on anger and I found this interesting article that I would like to share.

I want to change to be a better person and to handle situations differently which will make my life/day with my family member brighter.  Cross my finger!

Article Taken from Anger Management

There is something we can do about Anger. It is called Anger Management.

Anger Management is a set of tools to help us deal with anger that may be getting out of control. 

What Anger does to the body

When we repress anger, we hurt ourselves. Anger raises our cholesterol level, releases cortisol that damages the arteries and suppresses our immune system.

Repeated and uncontrolled expressions of anger have been linked to heart disease, cancer, obesity and strokes.There is evidence linking suppressed rage to breast cancer in men and women.

Research suggests that women with breast cancer have an inability to see themselves supported by others; they are more likely to internalize feelings of anger. There is also evidence linking depression and anger to autoimmune disorders such as rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, some thyroid diseases and lupus erythematosus.

Over the course of time, Anger can kill!

Executive Functions Control Anger

Angry people are at the mercy of their amygdala, the remnant of our emotional reptilian brain.

This is the part of us that can be locked in an emotional rut, flooding the body with stress hormones when we fly off the handle.

Resilient people who can manage their anger and remain optimistic despite life's ups and downs usually make rapid recoveries from stress or unfortunate events.

They have learned to use the executive functions of the brain to calm down the amygdala. They have assimilated a set of anger management tips that can help them negotiate a way out of self-sabotaging thoughts and feelings. They understand the power of the brain.

Anger Control Tips

1. Recognize and accept your anger. Some people are unaware of their anger responses; their sense of hostility is so pervasive they cannot see it as anger.

Understanding how you react when angry is the critical first step to anger management.

Ask yourself these questions:

How do you express your anger?
How do you feel physically when you are angry?
What is the cause of your anger?

2. Understand you have a choice with anger.

You can either be angry or not be angry.

You can talk rationally about something that hurts you or you can explode irrationally.

These are all choices.

3. If you cannot talk rationally about the cause of your anger, use these "time-out" tools:

a)count to 10 slowly
b)focus on taking deep, slow breaths

c)move to another room or go for a long walk
d)meditate
e)think of something wonderful--a beautiful beach, blue skies
f)do something you enjoy--a game of tennis, read.

4. Check out our Parenting Help Page for Anger Management Tips for Parents

5. Find someone impartial with whom you can talk. This can be a good friend or a therapist,if you feel you need professional guidance.

6. Consult Self Help Sites that often provide valuable insights into your emotional issues. These are often a safe form of third person engagement. Most are free as well and provide question and answer forums that protect your anonymity. A good place to visit is SelpHelpCollective.com

7.Consult Professional Anger Management Resource for help and guidance.

8.Check out Anger Management Programs like Total Transformation.They provide professional consultation and help for Managing the Meltdown.

9. There are Nutrition and Lifestyle Changesthat can help you deal with anger as well.Professional advice can help you get quickly to the source of your emotional wounds. Often the source of these wounds is in childhood anger.

Persistence and patience will pay off eventually.